F*CK NORMAL

Trauma happens to everyone. The CDC says:

Sexual Abuse happens to 1:5 people

Physical Abuse happens to 1:4 people

1: 3 Relationships are abusive in some aspect

25% of Americans have a close alcoholic relative

The statistics are what they are. I believe they are less than what they’ve been in the past, however, they are only now documented. Did you know trauma is passed down through generations? Up to 6 generations, trauma can be passed, leaving traces of it on our bodies.

The definition of trauma = unbearable and intolerable. Trauma is not a fad. Trauma is damaging to one’s core, and it effects those we love more than we know. Spouses of traumatized individuals can become depressed, and children are likely to become unable to trust their traumatized parent. For me, this is the purpose of healing. Trauma is exhausting, and can be reactivated immediately. Post traumatized people can feel overwhelmed because of the energy it takes to be victimized. Dr. Van Der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps Score praises three newish disciplines for helping to understand the relationships between the body, the mind and the brain: Neuroscience, Developmental Psychology, and Interpersonal Neurobiology. This group of sciences help us to understand the effects of psychological trauma, abuse and neglect. They help explain how the brain supports neuro-processes, how the brain and mind develops, and how behavior influences those around us.

So, in short:

Failed behaviors are not the sign of failure, a lack of willpower or bad character. They are caused by actual, physical changes in the brain. Changes you had no control over. Changes that occured before you were even born. The mistakes you base your worth on, are not your fault. Let’s un-learn these alterations and find out how to fix them, together! We are not normal, because we were raised different. We experienced more than most, which is why we are weird!

Embrace your weirdness. It looks good on you!

Sincerely,

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