My life appears to be made for others entertainment. As it unfolds, I find myself wondering who’s the next character to be introduced? What’s going to happen next? When is this chapter going to end? Where will we be – my children and I – this time next year? And… WHY THE FUCK IS THIS MY LIFE?
Everyone’s life is experienced in portions/sections/categories/etc… Maslow even scientifically proved, and based a theory on this fact. A theory that is still used today by our leading, acclaimed physical and behavioral healthcare professionals. For some reason, Maslow’s Theory has seemed… highlighted… whenever brought into my life. I remember hearing about it in high school, during my general education courses in college, in nursing school and beyond! I’ve created care-plans for elderly clients and disabled children, utilizing the model in real-life scenarios. I remember Maslow’s theory demanding my attention throughout the years and have been aware of it’s deep-embedment. My most recent experience has brought the greatest understanding: applying it to myself.
Maslow created the theory Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs in 1943 and it continues to be used as a popular assessment tool in education, healthcare, social-work, and behavioral health fields. What it helps visualize is how humans are INTRINSICALLY MOTIVATED. The concept is: in order to succeed you have to satisfy the prior level of need. Even through Moslow didn’t create the iconic pyramid image we equate to the theory, it is a good visualization of it. It shows that to reach the top ‘Self Actualisation’ or transcendance, you have to meet the basic needs of the previous four layers: Psychological Needs, Safety and Security, Loving and Belonging and Self-Esteem.
As I’ve written before, I am by no means, a professional. In another lifetime *sigh*, perhaps, but I’m afraid it’s too late for this old, stubborn, traumatized brain. Instead I use the university of Google, and common sense. Until this year, I’ve not experienced anything beyond the fist tier: Physiological Needs. I thought it would take years to become a ‘real-girl’, but once I found safety and belonging everything zoomed right along. Since then I’ve learned how to be selfish and how to set boundaries. I’ve learned that I didn’t know how to be ‘normal’ because I wasn’t given a ‘normal’ upbringing. I was given the fundamentals of existence, and thrown to the world. My goal is Self-Actualization.Healing, writing, parenting, and growing my understanding of life is my priority. I would like to be happy. Truly, completely happy before I die. So I’ve decided to start exploring these new fundamentals I’ve heard so much about.
Again, I am not a mental-health professional, and everything stated in my writings are my own. I’ve done research for many years and have learned some life-altering tips and bits. Every situation is different and experienced soley. I truly hope my experiences can assist others in finding themselves before half their life is lived. My experiences are unique and my understandings are different because my situation and environment is different than yours. Take what you like – leave what you don’t. Overall, I want you to know that you are a strange one, and that’s what makes you special 🙂
Strange. Unique. Different. Inappropriate. Too-much. Special. Weird. Uncommon. Rare. Precious = Perfect.
Perfectly F*CKed up,
Nix
F*CK NORMAL 